Being single has not always been easy for me. For a very long time I was not happy being single. I dreamed about the wedding I would one day have. I knew exactly what my dress would look like. I knew where my wedding would be held. I knew every detail of my wedding, except, who my groom was going to be. I prayed and I prayed for God to bless me with a husband. I even had a list of qualities I wanted him to possess. He had to be taller than me. He had to look a certain way. He had to make a certain amount of money. He had to treat me like a princess. I wanted the fairy tale. I wanted a romance straight out of the movies. Then one day, while praying for the man of my dreams, God said to me, “You keep telling me what you want in a husband, but what do you want your husband to want in you? Do you really want the type a man that wants a girl like you?” This hit me to the core. What did God mean? Was I not worthy of being a wife? No. I wasn’t. I spent so much time listing what I wanted my husband to offer me and no time thinking about what I wanted to offer my husband. I wanted a prince, when I wasn’t a princess.
How many other women out there are like that? We want the “perfect” husband when we are in no way prepared to be the “perfect” wife. We want the kind, funny, rich, incredibly handsome man and we want him to except us in all our flaws with not a second thought. We want the fairy tale. Well ladies there is a reason they are called fairy tales, because they are just that, tales. The Prince married Sleeping Beauty because she was beautiful, he nothing about her. What do we call a woman who a man marries just because she’s beautiful? A trophy. Do you really want to be a trophy? I know it may sound glamorous but think about it. Trophies are just there to look at, they have no other purpose. Do you really want your purpose in a marriage to be decoration? Or do you want a marriage that is also a partnership? Well in partnerships both parties have something to offer. What do you have to offer?
Marriage is supposed to be a partnership. So instead of sitting around pining over what you want your husband to offer you maybe you should start preparing yourself for what you want to bring to your partnership. Stop fantasizing about the fairy tales you see on TV and start realizing what marriage is really about. Because maybe the reason you’re still single is not because you haven’t found the right man, maybe you aren’t the right woman……. yet.
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